Rough TIme

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  1. James77

    James77 Student of the Blues

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    Hey all, my mom passed away Sat. She had Alzheimer's. Man, this is the toughest thing I've ever dealt with. Haven't felt like touching a guitar till this evening. Felt guilty for playing.
     
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  2. Elwood

    Elwood Bb

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    So sorry.
    Maybe you can let the guitar and time help you through.
     
  3. ervjohns

    ervjohns Blues Junior

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    Sorry to hear that, James. I have been there too and it’s not easy.
     
  4. tommytubetone

    tommytubetone Portage, MI

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    Best wishes to you and your family. It’s a tough deal.
     
  5. Oldmann

    Oldmann Blues Newbie

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    So sorry for your loss. That is a cruel disease to all involved?
     
  6. arock

    arock Help! I'm a rock

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    Sorry for your loss. Have lost 2 family members to that terrible disease, and I feel your pain.
     
  7. MarkDyson

    MarkDyson Blues Hound Wannabe

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    Sad news, indeed. My condolences. Alzheimer's took my grandmother, it was hard to see that strong-willed woman decline like that.
     
  8. wildwood

    wildwood Playin' Blues

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    My dad passed away in 2001 from the effects of Alzheimer's. So sorry for your loss.
     
  9. Elio

    Elio Student Of The Blues

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    My mom passed away from heart disease about 12 years ago, but had early stages of dementia. The only positive thing was not having to see her decline, but the experience was still grueling. Please accept my condolences.
     
  10. MikeS

    MikeS Allen, TX
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    Sorry for your loss James.
    Whatever it takes to get you through the rough times.
     
  11. Many Moons

    Many Moons Biking+Blues=Bliss

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    Sorry to hear that brother.(y) Psalm 116 v 15
     
  12. Silicon Valley Tom

    Silicon Valley Tom It makes me happpy to play The Blues!

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    Sorry to hear you lost your mother. I lost mine June 2005. Mom was 90, very active, loved to sing, talk about politics and many other subjects. She died of a heart attack. I think of her every day. I love to think about all the fun we had together since I can remember, with memories going back to when I was 9 months old. She taught me so many things for which I am grateful. A love of music was but one thing my mom taught me.

    You might need a breather before you take up the guitar, but playing the guitar may help down the road. It helps to talk to someone close to you.

    I lost my brother to Dementia, April of this year. Bill was 20 months younger then me.

    We have to try to do our best while we are able to do so. Take it easy, and think good thoughts. That would make your mom happy!

    Tom
     
  13. BigMike

    BigMike Blues Oldie

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    Sorry to hear that, stay strong and stay safe.
     
  14. snarf

    snarf musician wannabe

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    Still lucky enough to have my folks here, but they're now at that age that every time I go visit them I'm faced with the fact that they're closing in on the inevitable. Prayers, happy thoughts, and positive mojo headed your way. If you need anything, let one of us know.
     
  15. sloslunas

    sloslunas NM Blues

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    Very hard to hear this news. Lost both of my parents, and it is very hard to deal with. I wish you the best on moving forward...

    Steve
     
  16. MikeR

    MikeR Guitar Challenged
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    So sorry for your loss. My Mom passed away almost two years ago to the day. She had some dementia near the end, but nothing compared to Alzheimer's.
     
  17. brent

    brent Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

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    My condolences. My mother passed from cancer at 62 six years ago. Don't feel guilty about playing your guitar. Do whatever feels right that helps you get through this difficult time as long as it's not hurting anyone else.
     
  18. PapaBear

    PapaBear Guit Fiddlier

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    Sorry for your loss, it took my Mom as well, thoughts and prayers to you and yours! Your guitar can be a great avenue to release your emotions!
     
  19. James77

    James77 Student of the Blues

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  20. CaptainMoto

    CaptainMoto Blues Voyager

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    My condolences to you and your family.

    Losing a loved one is never easy and you just can't say how your sorrow will emerge.

    Feel sad, don't feel guilty.
    Reach for what sooths you. .
    Your music may help the heeling when it's time.

    I can tell you that since I began creating my own blues songs, it's been a great outlet for feelings that I might not have been expressed otherwise.

    May she rest in peace.